the idea that such a thing exists as "star crossed lovers" in real life is an absurdity. having grown up reading renaissance novels and shakespearean plays, i have grown accustomed to believing in such fantasies, whether that be because of my own insecurities or because those writers are that damn convincing. my personal experience in the field of romance has enlightened me. in act II, scene 7 of shakespeare's "as you like it," jacques (a lord attending duke senior) proclaims, "all the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players," the truth of which has only recently revealed itself to me. just as i, growing up as an avid reader of poetry, am a puppet to the playwright, so are people in relationships puppets to their significant other and to the world around them.
literature would have us believe that each person on this earth has been granted a better half by some supreme being. as romantic as that sounds, it's really a bunch of bs. if it were true, relationships would have no problems, no arguments, no heartache. i think we can all agree that, at least in this day and age, said relationship issues are inevitable--it is unrealistic to think otherwise. not every romeo has his juliet, and not every juliet her romeo. the question ensues, how does one know whether or not the person he or she is with is right for him or her? the answer: there is no answer. nobody can ever know for sure if they're making the right decision by "popping the question" or even introducing their significant other to the family. however, it has been my experience that a lack of communication in no way helps to mediate those uncertainties--in fact, wasn't it a lack of communication that ultimately led to the tragic deaths of both romeo and juliet?
i'm no dr. phil, nor am i a disciple (i wish) of shakespeare, himself, but i can tell you that the way to come close to having the type of relationships that poets write about is by being honest and open with your partner at all times--even if you're scared that you may have made a mistake that will cost you said relationship. and guys, even if you think being a romantic is totally lame, trust me when i say that if you even attempt to be one from time to time, your girl will see that you're trying and respect you more for it. you might even avoid an argument!
so, in conclusion, let it be said that fantasy and reality are without a doubt two separate entities. beware of mistaking one for the other as "never was a story of more woe, than this of juliet and her romeo" (act V, scene 3, romeo and juliet).